Tips to strengthen familes

Just like with any relationship, building a positive relationship between parent and child is one that requires work and effort to make it strong and successful. Parenting is a tough job, and maintaining close relationships and open communications helps to ensure parents and their children stay connected through all ages of their upbringing. Here are 10 simple tips for enhancing the bond between parent and child.

1. Say I Love You

Tell your child you love him every day -- no matter his age. Even on trying days or after a parent-child disagreement, when you don't exactly "like your child" at that moment, it is more important than ever to express your love. A simple "I love you" goes a long way toward developing and then strengthening a relationship.

2. Teach Your Faith

Teach your child about your faith and beliefs. Tell him what you believe and why. Allow time for your child to ask questions and answer them honestly. Reinforce those teachings often.

3. Establish A Special Name Or Code Word

Create a special name for your child that is positive and special or a secret code word that you can use between each other. Use the name as a simple reinforcement of your love. The code word can be established to have special meaning between your child and you that only you two understand. This code word can even be used to extract a child from an uncomfortable situation (such as a sleepover that is not going well) without causing undue embarrassment to the child.

4. Develop And Maintain A Special Bedtime Ritual

For younger children, reading a favorite bedtime book or telling stories is a ritual that will be remembered most likely throughout their life. Older children should not be neglected either. Once children start reading, have them read a page, chapter, or short book to you. Even most teenagers still enjoy the ritual of being told goodnight in a special way by a parent--even if they don't act like it!

5. Let Your Children Help You

Parents sometimes inadvertently miss out on opportunities to forge closer relationships by not allowing their child to help them with various tasks and chores. Unloading groceries after going to the store is a good example of something that children of most ages can and should assist with. Choosing which shoes look better with your dress lets a child know you value her opinion. Of course, if you ask, be prepared to accept and live with the choice made!

6. Play With Your Children

The key is to really play with your children. Play with dolls, ball, make believe, checkers, sing songs, or whatever is fun and interesting. It doesn't matter what you play, just enjoy each other! Let kids see your silly side. Older kids enjoy cards, chess, computer games, while younger ones will have fun playing about anything...as long as it involves you!

7. Eat Meals As A Family

You've heard this before, and it really is important! Eating together sets the stage for conversation and sharing. Turn the TV off, and don't rush through a meal. When schedules permit, really talk and enjoy one another. It can become a quality time most remembered by young and old alike.

8. Seek Out One-On-One Opportunities Often

Some parents have special nights or "standing dates" with their children to create that one-on-one opportunity. Whether it is a walk around the neighborhood, a special trip to a playground, or just a movie night with just the two of you, it is important to celebrate each child individually. Although it is more of a challenge the more children in a family, it is really achievable! Think creatively and the opportunities created will be ones that you remember in the future.

9. Respect Their Choices

You don't have to like their mismatched shirt and shorts or love how a child has placed pictures in his room. However, it is important to respect those choices. Children reach out for independence at a young age, and parents can help to foster those decision-making skills by being supportive and even looking the other way on occasion. After all, it really is okay if a child goes to daycare with a striped green shirt and pink shorts.

10. Make Them A Priority In Your Life

Your children need to know that you believe they are a priority in your life. Children can observe excessive stress and notice when they feel you are not paying them attention. Sometimes, part of being a parent is not worrying about the small stuff and enjoying your children. They grow up so fast, and every day is special. Take advantage of your precious time together while you have it!

They Dream High But Hardly Do Anything

Yet again our govt gave us a false assurance...   

"93million slum dwellers by next year

Marks Increase Of 23% Since 2001"

  Selja said the target of achieving a slum-free India in five years, as outlined by President Pratibha Patil, was not unachievable if states cooperate fully. 

Well where is the revenues which a common man is pay's each time from the sweat of his brow going....? If the Govt complains that the masses are not paying taxes regularly... then what our leaders are doing??Is there no strategies left with them that will run the Govt. smoothly.

  Despite the country’s robust economic growth, around 93.06 million people will live in slums in cities by next year, an increase of around 23% since 2001, forced by a lack of space and means.
    According to an expert committee set up to estimate “reliable” urban slum population, there has been a growth of 17.8 million across the country in the last decade.
    Defending the increase in slum population figures, minister for housing and urban poverty alleviation Kumari Selja said this trend is along expected lines due to a spurt in urbanization. However, she assured that the percentage would come down, with the efforts of UPA 2 towards slum development and rehabilitation.
    The committee, headed by Pranab Sen, principal adviser to the Planning Commission and former chief statistician, pointed out that the projected slum population in 2011 would be go up to 93.06 million from 75.26 million that was estimated in 2001 as per the new methodology. The 2001 Census figures peg the slum population at 52.4 million.
    By next year, 31.63 lakh people will be living in slums in Delhi as compared to 23.18 lakh in 2001, going by the panel’s methodology.
    Among the states, Maharastra tops the chart where around 1.815 crore will be living in slums in 2011, followed by Uttar Pradesh (1.087 crore), Tamil Nadu (86.44 lakh), West Bengal (85.46 lakh) and Andhra Pradesh (81.88 lakh).
    The ministry appointed the committee to come out with reliable slum data to ensure better implementation of Rajiv Awas Yojana (RAY) that aims to eradicate slums in India.
    Selja said there was “paucity of correct data earlier” as small towns were left out, and the new definition put forth by the committee would serve as a guideline for Slum Census 2011 and state governments.
    A major reason for the total slum population being underreported was due to the fact that the Census 2001 took into account only notified slums in 1,764 towns across the country.
    Officials attributed the rise in slum figures to wider definition of slum and expanding the coverage as the committee has factored in all 5,161 towns, including 3,799 statutory towns, and has also modified the definition of slum as followed by the Registrar General of India (RGI), which conducts the Census.
    Selja said the target of achieving a slum-free India in five years, as outlined by President Pratibha Patil, was not unachievable if states cooperate fully. Admitting that urban population is growing and there are many challenges to realize the goal, the minister said, “UPA government has committed itself to RAY and money should not be a constraint”.

Policies and Schemes — India Development Gateway

Policies and Schemes — India Development Gateway

Aman Ki Asha

About two-thirds of those polled in India and almost three-fourths of those in Pakistan said they desire a peaceful relationship between the two countries. Only a tiny minority, 17% in India and 8% in Pakistan, are opposed to the idea of consigning hostility to the dustbin of history.

The neighbourhood we live in may be the deadliest in the world, but it also is one in which the yearning for peace is enormous. Indeed, the very fact that the horrors of hostility have been brought home so forcefully to all those who live in this neighbourhood may explain why two nations that have had such an embittered relationship voice such a strong cry for some sanity. In an extensive poll conducted jointly for The Times of India and the Jang group of Pakistan, it was that an overwhelming majority want a peaceful relationship. Most hearteningly — and unexpectedly — there is also a high degree of optimism about the possibility of an end to hostilities and there is a widespread recognition that bringing about that happy denouement is not a task that can be left to the two governments alone.

Aman ki Asha polled people in six Indian cities as well as respondents in eight Pakistani cities and 36 villages to feel the pulse of a sub-continent besieged by violence and fear. About two-thirds of those polled in India (66%) and almost three-fourths of those in Pakistan (72%) said they desire a peaceful relationship between the two countries. It’s not as if the rest were opposed to the idea of harmony. A sizeable chunk in both countries — 17% in India and 20% in Pakistan — neither agreed nor disagreed with the statement that

“I want peaceful and friendly relations to prevail between India and Pakistan”. In other words, only a tiny minority, 17% in India and 8% in Pakistan, were opposed to the idea of consigning hostility to the dust bin of history. For countries that have fought three wars and one mini-war and have accused each other of abetting terror, those figures are a whole lot better than what you might expect.

In India, the urge for peace was more or less uniform across gender, age and socio-economic categories, but in Pakistan male respondents were surprisingly more strongly in favour of the idea than their female counterparts (77% to 66%).

The survey tapped respondents in Delhi, Mumbai, Kolkata, Chennai, Bangalore and Hyderabad in India. In Pakistan, the cities covered were Karachi, Hyderabad and Sukkur in Sindh, Islamabad/Rawalpindi, Lahore, Multan and Faisalabad in Punjab and Quetta in Baluchistan.

Desiring peace is one thing, but is there a genuine feeling that it is possible? Once again, we were pleasantly surprised by the findings of the poll. A clear majority in both cases — 59% in India and an even higher 64% in Pakistan — said they were either “very hopeful” or “quite hopeful” that they would see our current state of antagonism becoming a thing of the past within their own lifetimes. In India, the women were more optimistic than the men on this count, though not by a huge margin. Also, respondents from the SEC B socio-economic category were somewhat more hopeful than those from the more elite SEC A category and the relatively young (ages 18 to 19) were just a touch more hopeful than the older lot aged 30 to 45 years.

Can people-to-people initiatives — which is what Aman ki Asha is really all about — be effective in bringing about the peaceful relationship that is so fervently desired? The vote in this case was decisive. In India, 78% said they were an “effective” or “very effective” instrument of peace. If that sounds massive, the verdict was even more unequivocal in Pakistan, where 85% chose one of these two responses. In fact, an impressive 43% in Pakistan said it would be “very effective”. We couldn't have asked for a more resounding endorsement of our earnest belief that civil society initiatives can and must make a difference.

Indeed, we wouldn’t have imagined the response would have been so clear.

What explains the scale of this endorsement? A large part of the explanation would seem to lie in the answers to another of the questions asked in the survey. We asked the respondents to rank the current state of the relationship between the two countries on a scale of 1 to 9, where 1 indicates “hostile” and 9 indicates “friendly”. We also asked them to do this rating separately for relations between the two states and between the two peoples. On both sides of the troubled border the responses were revealing.

While the average rating given by Indian respondents to state-to-state relations was 3.65 (indicating “cold”), the same respondents rated people-to-people relations at 4.15 indicating something closer to “neutral”. On the Pakistani side, state-to-state relations were rated on average at 3.79, while people-to-people relations were rated at 4.61 on average. In other words, while Pakistanis had a more positive view of the relationship than Indians, both sides agreed that the rapport between people was better than that between the two governments. It is not difficult to see why they believe civil society initiatives are the way forward from here.

On each of these questions, there were significant variations in the responses from different Indian cities and there was at least one clear pattern to those variations. Delhi and the southern cities of Chennai, Hyderabad and to a lesser extent Bangalore were more inclined to take a positive view of both the current state of relations and the prospects of peace than the other cities.

In contrast, Mumbai was clearly the city with the most gloomy perspective on each of the questions asked.

A majority, 54%, for instance said they were not hopeful of peace being achieved in their lifetime. Given the horror of 26/11 that is hardly surprising. But the fact that even in Mumbai 50% said they wanted peace against the 42% who didn’t and 52% voted for people-to-people initiatives as the way to move towards that peace must be seen as a vindication of Aman ki Asha.

Congress is richest political party

Among the political parties, the Congress is the richest. It has an aggregate income of Rs.1,518 crore earned over a seven-year period between the assessment years 2002-2003 and 2009-2010. For the same period, the Bharatiya Janata Party and the Bahujan Samaj Party reported incomes of Rs. 754 crore and Rs. 358 crore respectively.
However, the BSP grew rich the fastest. From only Rs. 6 crore in 2002-2003, its income went up to Rs.182 crore in 2009-2010. The Congress reported an income of Rs. 69.56 crore in 2002-2003. By 2009-2010, this went up to Rs. 497 crore.
The BSP's assets also grew substantially in the seven years, increasing from Rs.11 crore to Rs.286 crore. The Congress reported a total asset value of Rs. 53 crore in 2002-2003. This zoomed up to Rs. 612 crore when it filed its returns for the assessment year 2009-2010.
The Samajwadi Party's asset value stood at Rs. 14 crore in 2002-2003. Over the next seven years, this grew to Rs. 178 crore. The BJP's assets grew from Rs. 81.41 crore to Rs. 261 crore.
The maximum annualised growth average in total assets in this period was recorded by the BSP (59 per cent), followed by the Nationalist Congress Party (51 per cent) and the SP (44 per cent).
As on March 31, 2009, the maximum capital fund was reported by the Congress (Rs. 549 crore), followed the BSP (Rs. 286 crore) and the BJP (Rs. 246 crore).
These details were obtained by the National Election Watch (NEW), which filed Right to Information applications seeking copies of the income tax returns of the various parties.
The NEW obtained income tax returns data for the Congress the BJP, the BSP, the Communist Party of India (CPI), the Communist Party of India (Marxist) (CPI-M), the NCP, the SP and the Rashtriya Janata Dal.

KASHMIR'S STONE PELTING ISSUE

              Mischievous act of politics displayed by secessionist leaders by erupting the anger amongst then young Kashmiris. Many of the stone-pelters are youths with college degrees, some with academic careers or once-thriving businesses. 

Such is the anger in the Valley that these youths, most of them with no prior political affiliations, are now willing to throw caution to the winds and give up their career dreams for "azadi".

A final year commerce student, Atiq, a "stone-pelter" himself, calls it a "haq ki ladaai (a fight for rights)". At 21, Atiq should have been weighing career options. But he says there are can be no career without a future.

"I am not scared that I will die by a bullet. I would have died doing something good. I have lived my life in the shadow of bullets. I can die by one without any remorse," he says in chaste Urdu.

But why pelt stones? "Throwing stones is retaliation. The forces have attacked us, shooting bullets at our chest and above the waist. They beat us without provocation. Won't we aim stones at their heads? The forces are lying when they say that they shoot in self-defence," he adds.

Agrees Riyaz, a management teacher at a city university who has participated in 80 to 90 protest marches by now. "I have studied in Saudi Arabia and central Asia. When I came back to Srinagar some years back, I was 17 years old and I realized that I had been living in an illusion. The reality was that we were constantly checked at gunpoint and were always under suspicion.There was no freedom here. It was a huge shock," he says in fluent English.

He explains how stone pelting came as a spontaneous reaction. "We have been subjected to unprovoked violence. The forces do it on purpose to spread fear and oppression. We can't fight the might of the government militarily, so we are employing every means possible to get our voice heard including stone pelting, speaking to the international media and writing articles that give our point of view," he says.

Kashmiris deserve "truth and justice", he says, adding the movement was a retaliation to India's unfulfilled promise. He has watched friends get picked up from their homes in the middle of the night, seen his family being searched at checkposts and decided he had had enough.

Hamid, a postgraduate, says that the disenchantment and anger has spread to entire families and is no longer restricted to certain groups. "My mother who never allowed me to step out in protest, yesterday said enough is enough and asked us to go out and protest," he says.

Atiq too says his parents know he pelts stones but do not discourage him from going out during curfew hours.

Despite weeks of shortages of food and medicines, rotesters landing up in hospitals with injuries, the resentment seems to have only grown. "It has never been like this. Between August 2009 to May 2010 there were only a few strikes called by the separatists and we were able to work even if we couldn't keep our offices open. But for the last three months, there has been a complete shutdown," says Hamid.
Well after looking at the above remarks given by the young Kashmiris we can well guess the situation  which the young Omar might be facing there.. With almost no support from the People Democratic Party Supremo, Mehbooba Mufti and the JK Panthers Party led by Bhim Singh. In the Monday, Jul 12 meet, the leaders reportedly held deliberations on the current situation in the Kashmir Valley.

Earlier PDP supremo, Mehbooba Mufti snubbed an appeal from the Prime Minister, Manmohan Singh to attend the meeting stating that nothing would come of it.

The JK Panthers Party led by Bhim Singh also labbelled the all-party meet as a 'purposeless exercise'. I must say it meaningless talking about inefficacy of the current CM Omar Abdulah in handling the issue because here the young hearts need to recognize that there psychology are being manipulated by    secessionist. If they think that there are other leaders who could handle the situation well then they are in the world of oblivion. The new leader will also face the same difficulty as well...

The Power Of Indian Youth

IT'S HIGH TIME FOR US TO REALIZE....................IT'S THE MODERN ERA THE YOUTH'S ERA........ FREEDOM AND PRESTIGE NEVER COMES SO EASY...  WE NEED TO WORK FOR THAT...... INDIA'S GLORY OUR PRIDE..........

History of India

India is great....................

Friendship...

Transparency, integrity and love make a healthy friendship
A lot of energy goes into making a friend. Some people make friends more easily than others. Even then, the process of building an acquaintance into a friendship of value is a lot of work. Many would quickly settle for an arms-length arrangement that can never measure up to a healthy friendship. More is needed to transform a casual acquaintance into a healthy friendship.

Marriage is one of those relationships of value. Reality is that some, if not many, marriages are between two friends who don't make it to become best of friends. So, a healthy friendship can defy marriage partners.
It is important to take a good look at what makes a good, healthy friendship.
A friend, a close friend and the best friend
A friend is someone who knows something about you and likes you; a close friend is one who knows a great deal about you and still loves you; and your best friend is one who knows everything there is to know about you and still loves you.
Two things that I believe make a healthy friendship are proximity and love. Proximity denotes the degree to which friends open up to one another. A healthy friendship is one that benefits from mutual interaction, which is steady intercourse.
A relationship, any relationship for that matter can be compared to a flower in the garden. It needs to be watered and constantly tended, and pruning is part of the process of maintaining a healthy relationship. Two key words to consider here are integrity and transparency.
The integrity of a relationship is built on trust and faith in each other. A healthy relationship needs trust. Transparency relates to the extent to which a relationship remains open to criticism and cleaning up by the other party. When a relationship has these it is like an open system that can be sustained over time and through challenges which inevitably assails any relationship.
Love is measured by the degree of acceptance of one another by the parties involved in the relationship. The opposite of love would be indifference. A friendship can not survive where there is indifference. A healthy relationship is supported by the attitude that registers deviations from the norms for that relationship and takes steps to correct them where necessary.

Love covers a host of characteristics required as the nutrients of the flowers of friendship. These include faithfulness, sincerity, care, and protection. A friendship that has these in good measure is a healthy relationship. One that is deficient in one or more is not a healthy relationship. One friend must respect the ideals and values of  the other even if he doesn't believe them. Friends always give complement when something good goes your way but a true friend is the one who dares to criticize you when you do something wrong that is against the values. 
Ultimately, the test of a friendship rests on unconditional care and support through thin and and thick, through cloudy days and rainy days, through joys and pain.

Conscious and unconscious

The human mind is divided into two parts: the conscious and the unconscious. These are integral parts of every individual mind, whether male or female.

The conscious mind deals with everything that is within the realm of our awareness, whereas the unconscious mind deals with all those thoughts that the individual is unaware of but which influence his behaviour.

Our body is a highly complex organism. There are numerous functions going on at all times in our bodies like seeing, hearing, digestion, respiration and different kinds of movements. Almost all these functions are governed by the unconscious mind. Little effort is required on the part of our consciousness for the smooth functioning of these bodily requirements.

The conscious mind has unlimited capacity for thinking and analysing facts. But if everything is placed in charge of the unconscious mind, according to the divine plan of creation, what is the role of the conscious mind? It is to seek out the truth. The Creator has made the conscious mind free to involve itself solely in the great quest for truth. To search for truth is our greatest task.

What is truth? Truth is, in other words, the reality of life. We must try to know the secret of life, its purpose and goal, to know what is right and wrong, what are the minus and plus points, what is negative and positive thinking, what is good for the individual and for society.

The answers to these questions are not written on any mountainside. It is up to us to discover the truth. Knowledge of truth is so important that the Creator has consigned our bodily affairs to the unconscious mind.

People frequently live in a state of frustration. And great men are no exception. They live frustrated lives and they die frustrated. Tension and stress are ubiquitous.

The reason lies in people’s failure to find the truth. Everyone is a seeker by birth, but everyone lives his life without knowing what the real purpose of life is. Due to this aimlessness, people are living in a state of confusion. They speak and write, but without clarity. They live lives fraught with contradictions. They yearn to find something but without knowing what that something is.

A tension-free mind is one that can function positively despite contradiction. People work, but without job satisfaction. People run after money, but without experiencing inner satisfaction. People have adopted the formula: Enjoy life! But they don’t know what life is and what its real enjoyment is. It is a paradoxical situation and everyone is living in this state of self-contradiction.

It is a self-created problem. When the Creator has given you a mind and made you free to use your mind, you should make use of this opportunity. You have to activate your thinking capacity. You have to discover the reality. You have to read what is hidden in nature in an unwritten form. That is the only way to extricate yourself from this psychological chaos.

The consciousness of truth is interwoven in your nature; it is very easy, therefore, to discover the truth. The only condition is to shun distraction, to follow the well-known principle: simple living, high thinking. If you want to save yourself from going astray, activate your thinking faculty. Think and you will surely reach the gates of truth.

Complete Shame on Part of Our GOVT:

Praja is bhagabaan to Raja... It's a reality during election But the whole thing vanishes once the Govt comes to power. Democracy is a govt to the people for the people and by the people.. These are the very statements made in speeches and talks.

The sad demise of Aman Khan of Uttar Pradesh says it all. Just for the shake of security of PM the security officials delayed the traffic that prevented the parents from taking Aman to hospital. Well it's a complete shame that despite knowing the urgency of the case the Govt didn't do anything. While seeking votes our political leaders visit the poor villages of Our country prefer having food with them sitting on the floor. They win elections getting the votes from these poor people. But after that they forget everything. It's complete nonsense talking of their security because fir the shake of votes they dare to enter the public without security. But when it comes to going by road whats the need of blocking traffic.

Homegenity In Globalisation????????

Because of Globalisation world has shrinked to a small village..........but how far it has been able to be a bless for us?
Globalisation opens scope for development of both an individual as well as the organisation. But the hole thing relies on how it is managed and how well our people have understood it.
In 1991 we had liberalisation and our GDP was about 29% next to China which had 33% but now our GDP is just about 8% to 9%... On the other hand our IT sectors have improved immensely by recruiting many skillful workers in to the organisation.
So no doubt that it has improved the global; economy as a whole but it hasn't been able to attain homogeinity.
    Well I have published numerous strategies in my new book that has been published recently... and now I  am  discussing a few of them:-
We have got many barren lands which are not fertile. These lands are need to be used for making Govt infrastructures. But many times we find that instead of making use of these barren lands govt makes use of Fertilized lands or cultivated lands. And in past few years this is the main issue thats degrading our GDP and leading to farmer suicides as well.
2ndly there are many forest area within our country which holds large deposits of mineral resource like bauxite, iron ore and manganese ore but inhibitted by tribals. These minerals are needed tp be exploited. Here we need to educate the tribals and handle them psycologically by satisfying their economic interest rather than being violent to them. Because many atime we have seen this has led to great deal of disturbance affecting the harmony.
3rdly Our education system should be strong and intense.It should teach them to look for self. It should stress on decission making power and make them aware of e,erging skills of Global economy. It would help them stand or face the changing trends
              GLOBALISATION HAS ENABLED US TO UNITE US SOCIALLY. " IT HAS MADE THE WORLD CULTURE AS A POT THAT IS MELTING AT A RAPID RATE BUT HAS NOT PROVIDED THE  ECONOMY HOMOGENITY"
           

Incompleteness...in Absence

Life started with a whisk;

With thirst increasing day by day.

Before i could taste the fruit,

It abducted all my dreams,

Whipping me to darkness.

The cold nights became scorching,

As I was Padlocked to death.

Every day i woke up,

With an utter abhorrent look.

I prayed my demise;

Realising self as vacuity.

Until she intervened;

Ablazing my heart with life.

She helped me to look beyond

And I reacted,

Expressing myself to this buzzy world.

She filled the space between my fingers

And made me think of those

Who still wanted me to breathe

While crossing those dark forests;

Many helping hands came by.

But me intuited, they weren't selfless.

Now at this stage of life,

When i stand lively despite pain;

And she has to move away,

I feel myself all alone,

sensing "an incompleteness in absence.."